Difficulty to Heal Psyche Wounds

We often find it difficult to identify, address, deal with and heal our psyche wounds…

• Maybe… it is because we are not aware of our psyche wounds.
• Or maybe… we mistakenly perceive our psyche wound as a character triad.
• Or maybe… we do not understand what our psyche wounds are really about.
• Or maybe… we confuse psyche wounds and emotional trauma with one another.

There are plenty of maybe’s, if’s and but’s surrounding our psyche wounds and accompanied perceptions, and we often attempt to heal our psyche wounds in ways that can never be successful.

However – fundamentally – we have the unfortunate tendency to value our bodies (i.e. the lower self) as much more important than we do our minds, or rather our spirituality (i.e. the higher self).

As an example of this kind of favouritism, let’s “consider” a five-year-old boy who is getting ready for bed. He is standing on a chair by the sink brushing his teeth. When he slipped and scratched his leg on the chair when he fell. He cried for a while, but then got back on the chair, and reached for a box of plasters to put one on his cut.

Now, this child could barely read and write, but he already knew that you have to cover a cut, so it doesn’t become infected, and you have to take care of your teeth by brushing at least twice a day.

We all know – from an early age – how to maintain our physical health and how to practice dental hygiene. But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health?… Well, nothing really. What are we taught and what do we teach our children about emotional hygiene?… Nothing, apart from the occasional ‘cowboys don’t cry‘. How is it that we spend much more time taking care of our teeth than we do our minds and souls? Why is it that our physical health is much more important to us than our psychological health?

Actually, this is quite an irrational way of reasoning, because – generally speaking – we obtain psychological injuries and subsequent psyche wounds more often than physical ones. Psychological injuries such as failure or rejection or loneliness or loss or guilt or low self-esteem. These psyche wounds – like physical wounds – can get infected and worse, when we ignore them, they ultimately impact our lives in many dramatic and destructive ways. Psyche wounds – when left unattended – will eventually surface in our physical bodies as illnesses, aches, pains and ailments (i.e. body-mind symbiosis).

And yet… even though there are many “trail-and-tested” techniques that we could make use of to treat these kinds of psyche wounds, we don’t. It often doesn’t even occur to us that we should do so. “Oh, you’re feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it’s all in your head”. Can you imagine the kind of reactions that you will receive when saying that to somebody with a broken leg… “Oh, just run it off; it’s all in your leg”.

It is time that we deliberately close the gap that exists between taking care of our physical and psychological health. The time is now to treat our physical and psyche wounds with equal dedication as two sides to the same ‘health‘ coin.