Psyche Wounds can be Life Threatening

Apart from making our lives miserable – a living hell so to speak – unattended or ignored psyche wounds, will eventually kill us… it is just a matter of time!

For Example…

Loneliness frequently creates a deep psyche wound, one that distorts our perceptions, scrambles our thinking and warps our reality. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they do. It makes us afraid to reach out to others, because… why set ourselves up for rejection and heartache when our heart is already aching more than we can presently deal with?

There is already plenty of research done on loneliness, and all of it is horrifying. Chronic loneliness increases one’s likelihood of early death by almost 14%. Loneliness causes high blood pressure, high cholesterol and suppresses the functioning of our immune system, making us vulnerable to all kinds of illnesses and diseases. As a matter of fact, chronic loneliness poses a significant risk for our long-term health and longevity, as what cigarette smoking does.

We must prioritize our psychological health, and practice psyche “hygiene” as dedicatedly as we practice, for example, dental hygiene. However, we cannot treat a psyche wound, if we don’t even know we’re injured. Therefore, as part of our daily psyche “hygiene” routine, we should spend some time and make an effort to truly understand the emotions & feelings that we experience. Emotions and feelings (both positive & negative) are the best warning system to alert us to the possible presence of a psyche wound, especially when such emotions and feelings are experienced in a recurring pattern.

Please remember that loneliness isn’t the only feeling that might result in a psyche wound that distorts our perceptions and misleads us. So does… failure, rejection, helplessness, betrayal, frightened, defeat, ruined, judgment, abandonment, …etc., to name but a few.

Sadly thou, once we become convinced of something (i.e. believe it), it’s very difficult to change our belief. Our mind is difficult to change once we become convinced of something. It’s quite natural to feel demoralized and defeated after we fail. But we shouldn’t allow ourselves to become convinced that we cannot succeed… ever again. We have to fight feelings of defeat and helplessness. We have to gain emotional control over the situation. And we have to break this kind of negative reasoning cycle before it settles and convinces us that we “are a failure”. One of the many reasons why we should practice daily psyche “hygiene”.

Despite ample evidence to the contrary, body favouritism is an integral part of our culture – a way of thinking and living – which has the unfortunate tendency to upset a healthy balance and equilibrium in our lives. We favour the acquiring of life skills (&processes) above coping mechanisms (&climate) and this superficially created imbalance, often results in psychological entropy and all kinds of psyche miseries such as stress, depression, burnouts, fears, anxieties, addictions, future shock, fixations, governor trap, destructive mind defences, a twisted ego, panic attacks, PTSD, …and the likes. These eventually are “deposited” in our lives as cognitive dissonance, a toxic disposition, a distorted environmental noise filter, irrational locus of control, ignorance and sustaining a choice cycle sourcing from an active self-created Newton’s Cradle trap. These gradually emerge as “convinced” dogmas, assumptions, the heretic syndrome and plenty of interaction hurdles.

By taking SMART actions, when we experience e.g. feelings of loneliness, by changing our reactions to – for example – failure, by protecting our self-esteem, by battling negative reasoning… we won’t only heal our psyche wound, we will also build emotional resilience and we will then thrive and regain our balance in life once again.