Toxic Beliefs of Psyche Wounds

Any psyche wound – to a lesser or greater extent – has at its very core, any one or a combination of the following toxic beliefs…

Victimhood…

When we are confronted with emotionally negative experiences (i.e. trauma), it often results in a toxic belief that we are a victim of our circumstances, which causes us to become anxious about life and live in fear. Healing only occurs when we realize and truly believe – at our deepest awareness level – that we are responsible for our own lives. And that our lives are a reflection of all the beliefs that we are currently holding.

The key to healing the psyche wound of victimhood is waking up to who we are and remembering (i.e. start believing) that we are the scriptwriter and creator of our own lives. Maybe we don’t – yet – understand how we created something, and we would certainly not – consciously that is – create a traumatic event that would make us feel victimized. Nonetheless, we unconsciously create from hidden subconscious beliefs… and events in our lives provide us with numerous clues to these underlying beliefs.

Once we become aware of these disempowering beliefs, we have the opportunity to consciously heal them, by over-turning them, declaring their falsehood and turning our attention towards a higher truth. In this case, the higher truth is, ‘I am the creator of my own life‘. Authentic power comes from learning to be a conscious creator, but this can only happen when we flush out false or disempowering unconscious beliefs and we align ourselves with the truth of who we are.

Powerlessness…

Even before we experience any traumatic events (i.e. an emotionally negative experience), most of us are already educated and indoctrinated to believe that the outside world has power over us. So, when a traumatic experience does unfold, the idea of being powerless is already present and securely entrenched in our belief system, therefore, powerlessness seems an appropriate way to make sense of any negative experience.

Healing ourselves from the toxic belief of powerlessness is embracing our intrinsic influencing power. Not the power that comes from brutality, control or force, but rather the power that originates in the core of our being and compassionately connects us to the whole of all Creation. Healing the toxic belief of powerlessness is a self-determination & self-empowerment quest from… an ‘I feel powerless’ to an ‘I am powerful‘-attitude.

Worthlessness…

Of all the core toxic beliefs, worthlessness runs the deepest and is the most destructive to our psyche. We are indoctrinated and programmed to believe that we are unworthy from the time we were born. So when we experience trauma, and we search internally for a belief that will make sense of the experience, unworthiness quickly answers the question, “Why did this happen to me?” with anything ranging from “I am a sinner” to “I am not worthy of being loved”.

Of course, unworthiness is a false belief and therefore it must be exposed as such, to be released. When it is dormant, there is no need to pay attention, but once it causes pain, we must do something about it. The ‘emotional pain‘ will not go away until the false belief of unworthiness is released and we stop seeking proof and recognition of our worth in the outside world. The world cannot give or take away our self-worth because our worth is intrinsic and guaranteed. Authentic healing is attained when we re-discover and claim our unconditional worth.

Loss…

Often, when we have a psyche wound, we are inclined to believe that someone has taken something from us. No matter how hard we try, it appears impossible to retrieve what has been “stolen”. This search keeps the wound acute – the belief that we have lost something and it must be retrieved – and effectively locks us into a vicious cycle of recurring hurt.

Loss does not necessarily create a psyche wound. We all experience loss… loss of an ageing parent or loss of a relationship, for example. Loss is part of the natural cycle of life. Grieving is a natural response to loss and grieving is the process of ‘letting go‘. However, when we do not let go, the loss can turn into a psyche wound. This occurs when a toxic belief is formed about the loss – for example – beliefs such as… “no one will ever love me again” or “everyone I care about leaves me”. Again, it is the toxic belief that creates the psyche wound and not the loss itself.

When loss creates a psyche wound, we often close down and cut ourselves off from the very thing that could heal us. If we develop a toxic belief around losing love, we do not only block potential new relationships, we cut ourselves off from self-love and – ultimately – even Divine Love. In other words, we do to ourselves first, what we fear others might do to us.

Healing is consistently remembering and affirming the true Source of who we are and providing all that we need, is by trusting something much greater than the physical and mortal self. Thus, by aligning ourselves with the rhythm of all Creation, where the idea of victimhood, powerlessness, worthlessness and loss does not exist.